Thursday | 06.06.24
I wanted to start by thanking everyone for the kind words in response to my last journal! I didn't really know how to respond, but I really did appreciate it! <3
[Warning: overly personal ranting ahead!]
Wanted to whine about how annoying it is to send in job applications, ugh. I started by going through Indeed but nothing is even categorized properly (police officer or nurse practitioner is an entry-level job??), so I found a job portal that was put out by my state. It's also kinda horrible and slow and clunky, but seems to have less obviously fake listings, at least. I've mostly been applying for retail positions, but I did find one lab tech position...
In all of my journalling that I mentioned last time, I wrote about how in a "perfect" timeline, as opposed to this "doomed" one, I would be a chemist... I think I wrote about this before, but, in college, I legit spent all of my time studying. I'd take multiple hardcore science and math classes at once, each requiring several hours of homework a night, with new assignments added each day so even at full capacity, you'd just barely be keeping your head above water. If you took one day off, even, you'd be just be screwed and inevitably fall behind. I'd frequently skip meals to keep studying (or "reward myself" with dinner, only to remember that the dining halls were already closed). To top this off, I also took kinda really heavy literature courses as "gravy," where we'd have to read several books a week on top of everything else -- but I really enjoyed that, and that's when I took that Russian Lit class that I keep talking about on my Bookbug page. I specifically remember telling my advisor that it felt like a "soul-crushing amount of work," but it was something to hold onto, y'know? A reason to get up in the morning and a tangible goal I was working towards, with my full weight... And I'd think, even if this isn't necessarily the right interpretation of the quote, about that line from Notes From Underground: "Which is better -- cheap happiness or lofty suffering?"
I never made any art throughout my years of uni, and barely did anything at all outside of classwork, actually. (And I was honestly very depressed and overworked, and having suicidal thoughts, as well...) I think the only artsy-thing I did was this assignment for a class about the history of comics; we were supposed to teach a lesson via comics, then "assign" homework based on it. I wrote mine about chemistry, obviously, lol. The prof hated it and thought it was too wordy, but I'm still kinda proud of it and liked all of the little references I worked in (main chara is a mixture of Dexter of Dexter's Lab fame and Ms. Frizzle, the Kirby-looking water molecules, etc). That class was taken at the beginning of COVID, though, so mid-semester, we were all suddenly kicked out of the dorms and everything went online. It's very difficult and silly to try and run a lab class fully online, y'know? And by that point, everyone had pretty much just given up, anyway. All the classes that semester were switched to pass/fail, and that comics prof just went, "Yeah, you know that 20 page final paper I've been talking about this whole time? Don't bother turning it in, I'm just giving you all A's." (Which I was simultaneuously relieved and kinda pissed about! I wanted to write it about the history of Yaoi....)
When that semester was over was when I just broke, entirely. Going from full octane, putting 120% into schoolwork 24/7 to literally nothing for months on end was genuinely rock bottom for me. The hobbyless-ness of uni without the work or even illusion of progress... This wasn't an Underground Man moment of resentment and burning hatred, but simply nothing, the abyss.
Until I moved, in October 2020, and got a desk in my room. That's when I got into bookbinding, and started painting again, like I did in high school, and took online classes at a community college. And started working slowly on my crippling perfectionism (like, I used to be too anxious to even write with pens or to commit to journals because I was scared of "ruining" them with my thoughts, scared to draw for fear of making an "imperfect" work of art, scared to try anything!). And things kinda rolled on from there to now.
The point I was trying to make in all of this, is that I don't think this is a "doomed timeline," at all: while it may not visbily look like I've made much "progress," I do actually think this might be the best my mental health has ever been! I genuinely enjoy bookbinding and needlefelting and painting and reading and researching and all of these other little things that I've picked up over the years, but more than that -- I think this is the first time in my life that I've actually felt like I've been part of a community, not only feeling alive, but also like I exist to other people, apparently even when I'm not in the room... I'm truly so grateful! <3
Like I was saying last time, I still have a lot to work on, obviously. I was on a nice roll for a while in chilling out about art, but I've ripped up the last couple of paintings I've attempted because I hated them. And, honestly, I've been sending in these job applications, but I'm kind of scared of what happens next, if I actually get hired and my life does change... but, for lack of better words, you just have to "do it scared," huh?
To add to this surprising yet pleasantly hopeful feeling, I've seen rainbows on two separate occasions in the last week:
I legit don't remember the last time I saw a rainbow before this, and to see them now... I don't know, just feel so indescribably happy. <3